I'm about to graduate (and you're all probably thinking WE KNOW THIS STOP TALKING ABOUT IT). But in this months-long period of reflection I've been thinking about what I might like to tell myself if I could go back in time a little bit. Chances are, you've heard these all before, but I still think they're important.
1. Nobody is thinking about you. They're all just thinking about what you might be thinking about them.
I want to scream this one piece of advice to the entire world. Yeah, people pass quick judgments, but that's just it. They're quick. Nobody spends more than 30 seconds analyzing the weirdness that you think you might be radiating. They're too worried about their own weirdness.
2. Put yourself out there more. My professor Gary recently asked us, "Who here has met someone attractive, but never told them that you thought they were attractive?" All forty-something of us raised our hands. This tidbit doesn't just go for putting yourself out there when you see a cute guy in Caribou Coffee. It also goes for raising your hand in class or meeting your professor at office hours. It means daring to go somewhere, like an a cappella concert, alone. It means doing what you want to do, plain and simple.
3. All those little things you're stressing about? You're going to forget them in a month. This advice can basically be summed up as, "Don't sweat the small stuff." It's funny, because we say these things to ourselves all the time, but we continuously sweat the small stuff. I don't remember the grade I got on that paper that I was finishing the night before it was due. I do remember laughing with my friends as we walked home at 1:00 a.m. eating skittles.